Monday, December 25, 2006

Merry Christmas!



While I normally have weekends ( sat/sun ) off at work, I switched schedules to hang out with Ruth this Wednesday and help out a co-worker. So, it has worked out well.

I have been listening to Buddhist podcasts after returning home from work. They have allowed me newer perspectives regarding everything. With Christians asking me if I celebrate Christmas or am even a Christian, it can be a little overwhelming.

I don't want to ruin anyone's holiday, but make it my own. There are wonderful things about Christmas one can take in without idolizing what appears a mythology. There is nothing wrong with the mythology either, Buddhism has its own stories. They teach us what is important about our faiths.

I have been meditating on what to do regarding my relationship with Brandy. And I have been recommended to see the relationship as it is, and see if certain aspects color my perspective including: desire, ill-will, stupidity, & fear. As the Buddha taught, all things are impermanent. But instead of looking at the situation with only two possible solutions, I must work to find the multiple solutions and the best within that. Hopefully Brandy can assist me, because she always says she is overwhelmed with everything.

Sunday, December 17, 2006

Nother day with Siah/Kelly

It seems that Carie was unable to find her boyfriend today. Sometimes people disappear, but I don't know what I would do if Brandy were unable to watch Josiah for long periods of time. ( she has threatened to, even made me stay home a day from work last January because she was stressed out over watching him)

Well, things went fine. Overall, another slow day for me. Just cleaning around the house and organizing. As well as catch-up time blogging/writing - when they are getting along.

Anywho, Brandy was home for dinner which was bean/potato soup with cornbread. Twas very good!

Apart from that, found some CDs with photos from Iraq. I looked up the PMOI and they are still involved in their form of activism as usual. Anywho, nobody cares about Maryam Rajavi or the PMOI, but their own nations in relation to Iran.

I also did a google of Brandy's name and found that the state of Minnesota owes her a little over $100! Crazy, but at least we in Minnesota keep track of such things.

Saturday, December 16, 2006

Holidazzle with Kelly and Siah

We stayed home most of the day. Carie Krogen needed someone to watch Kelly, so I had no problem helping out. Kelly and Josiah get along great!

They were able to play with many neighbor children outside as it was very warm! Then when everyone went inside, so did Siah and Kelly. Brandy returned home with faraway friends Ruth Sherman and Derrick. Josiah was acting awful with two visitors, so I was unable to stay chatting with them because I had to discipline.

I usually discipline Josiah by using time-outs. These can vary depending on the severity of what he has done. But most the time sitting/standing in the corner suffices. But in some cases I have to take him to his room and sit in front of the door or other times hold him in the corner until he settles down.

Eventually, when our visitors left, we left for downtown via Hiawatha LRT. Brandy opted to stay home and take a bath. Kelly had never seen the train before, and was quite excited. I never get bored of LRT, because it is the future of transportation in America. But with so many going downtown for the same purpose, the trains were all packed! Luckily I am only one person and have 2 little guys who can squeeze between anyone!

We went to the Holidazzle and found a spot by Target Corporate HQ. This was convenient because afterwards we went to Chipotle. Their outdoor sign was unlit, but it was obvious by the line that they were still open. Kelly said she had never been there, but enjoyed her burrito nonetheless.

We then went home and Josiah could not act decent with her on the train. So we had to get off early at Cedar/Riverside and walk home from there. Josiah was very upset we had to walk, but Kelly was just fine. So it was a very good lesson for Siah in having to listen/act decent on the train

After Josiah and Kelly went to sleep, I read Persopolis by Marjane Satrapi. I LOVED it! Quite an excellent manga about her childhood in Iran in the late 70's and early 80's.

I am SO fortunate to live in a land where I can express myself and not face authoritarian persecution to such severity. Yes, the corporate world check up on applicants ousing MySpace/Google. I wouldn't want to work for someone who fired me over these blogs. I am also harassed in South Minneapolis by missionaries, who tell me I will go to hell by being Buddhist. The so-called homeless batter me with ridiculous stories ( which usually contain a part about being saved by Jesus ) and then refuse free food. Yes, it's annoying at times - but it's a lot easier living here than in Iran.

Brandy came home and explained how she brough the remainder of my injera & red lentils to a party. She also gave an album by the Sierra Leone Refugee All Stars to the birthday girl: Anjelica. It seemed to be quite popular at the party, of course this is another band I have found through my various resources. ( Paste magazine and 89.3 the Current )


[ note: I would have more photos, but our Kodak camera is broken. Josiah most likely tried using it and broke it. Coincidentally, there is a sale on digital cameras this week. I can get a 7MP camera for a lower price than Brandy bought the 6MP camera for - same brand: Kodak.]

Sunday, December 10, 2006

Rohatsu and Chuck-E-Cheese

1)Rohatsu

Josiah and I started out our day going to the Clouds in Water Zen Center. It was the final day of children's practice for the winter seshin.

Josiah made candles for the Rohatsu ceremony. Rohatsu is the Zen Buddhist holiday celebrating the enlightenment of the Buddha on Decmber 8th. It was a lovely celebration that included a discussion of what enlightenment is, chanting, then chanting while walking in a circle and tossing flowers. Josiah really enjoyed tossing the thin-paper flowers - and picking them up!

What I found most fascinating was that the myth-like stories of Buddha I had read about were just that - myths. Latest historical information regarding Siddhartha is that he was never a Prince. The time he had come from and family he was in was not royal at all, though fairly well off. Also the story of him sitting down under a Bodhi tree and finding enlightenment in a week also leaves out his 7 years of trying ascetic methods to attain truth. He found the Dharma though creating the Karmic conditions to do so, and the ascetic teachings had been of some value. But attaining enlightenment, the Buddha made the path much more attainable and am grateful that he has done so.

I am truly glad that there is a Sangha here in the Twin Cities! And Clouds in Water has surpassed my expectations already - and I have only gone there since October!

2) Chuck-E-Cheese

Afterwards Josiah and I stayed for a little bit. I was upset that he never listens to me and wants to leave. We had to catch an express bus from downtown Saint Paul to the Mall of America, and had to leave soon. I wanted to be early so I could buy some presents for the birthday party we would be attending. Josiah always wants to stay and play with his friends. If we weren't on a tight schedule I would have had no problem staying later.

We did leave, but already missed our bus. In fact, we had to wait around 25 minutes for the next one to arrive. But we hopped on the 54 and went to the MOA on a fairly packed bus. Josiah fell asleep. We got to the mall and went directly to Barnes and Nobles. I knew what books to get : Marsupial Sue and Kitten's First Full Moon. ( I do hate BN asking for an extra $25 to get a member card, when I shop Amazon a billion times more often. ) Then off to the 444, which would take us to the Burnsville Mall.

Growing up in Scott County, the only mall anyone ever went to was the Burnsville Mall. Prior to the MOA, it was the largest mall in Minnesota. It has been upgraded a bit since I was last in town, and think it has improved a bit. Though I think the southern suburbs could do with more efficient transit - our bus seemed to wind through the city in a chaotic fashion, yet where transit users hopped on and off. The culdesacs and stores of importance to transit users were of priority.

When we got to Burnsville Center, I found the food court and an empty table. While Josiah munched on some Cheezits, I wrapped the two books using the comics section of the Sunday Star Tribune. Perfect wrapping paper for lil kids! ( and cheaper) Then off to Chuck-E-Cheese!

My friend Shewalem ( Mekedes ) Tesema had invited me to the birthday party of her two daughters: Buruktawit [4] and Rebeka [2]. I thought it was for only one daughter, but luckily bought two books that would be quite age appropriate anyways. Shewalem had only told me the previous Thursday and I must have not heard it correctly.

I met Mekedes husband Asfine and many other relatives. My friend Likelesh was also there with her husband and daughter Yamrote. I Like's sister Tegest ( patience) , who works with Shewalem's sister, whose name escapes me. I wish I could remember names better than I do.

Anyways, it was fun. We enjoyed pizza and pop. Josiah enjoyed playing with the birthday girls. Chuck-E-Cheese came when the birthday cakes were to be lit for all the birthday celebrants, as there were 4 different parties occurring in our room. Josiah loved Chuch-E and talked to him, gave him hugs. Before Chuck-E left, he came over to give me a personal high-five - perhaps because he really liked Josiah! He does have a charismatic and outgoing personality, which everyone seems to love.

Asfine bought us all tokens and Siah went to play games. He collected tickets for me and went about playing games. He especially liked the racing games, though he couldn't reach the gas pedal or understand how to properly play them! He could enjoy them without actually inserting a token!

After the tokens were out we put the tickets in a machine to add our points and get a receipt. We took the receipt to a counter to get our winnings - toys of course. Josiah could only afford two things: a small wand and a grasshoppper ring. After he had finished he wanted a prize worth 10 times what we originally had - a plastic toy that he could hold on his hand and was a pirate hook! I said " Siah, we don't have enough tickets and we can't get it today" but cute Asian girl at the counter thought he should get one - so he did! I was so happy that he could get one, because after that he played pirate. :)

3) Skytubes ( and lost shoes )

Siah most enjoyed the sky-tubes, the hamster-like-plastic-tunnels attached to the ceilings. When we had to leave I collected all our things and went to a table near the playplace. That was when I couldn't find Siah's shoes. He claimed they were in the sky-tubes and kept going up to put them down the slide like I had asked. I eventually searched the entire place to find them and inquired in their lost-and-found.

Josiah also got into trouble in the sky-tubes. He was playing a tiger, but other kids thought him too aggressive. At some points I saw him crying from up above. Kind've upsetting because I felt helpless being underneath and the whole toy-thing was made for children. But after one parent went up to talk to him, and came back down I talked to her. Then Siah came down and we discussed how to act up there. He apologised to the boy he had called names and had pushed/hit. ( though Siah claimed he had hit him first, and was never apologised to. It is better he learn to take responsibility for his actions, irregardless others reciprocate.

Looking for his shoes again, and after searching every inch of Chuck-E-Cheese, I entered the sky-tubes. I hadn't been up there since being a little kid. It was fun, but don't think I could do this for long. Other parents were up there with lil guys, and commented on Josiah's speed up there, even after being up there for hours! I covered the entire tube system and could find no shoes. I assume some kid accidentally took them home thinking they were his shoes on his feet. Either way, Josiah had to only wear socks on the way home.

Two hours after our party had left for home, we were leaving Chuck-E-Cheese around 7 P.M. Our party had started at 2PM, and we had been there since quarter to.

Some other memorable events at the party were shooting basketball hoops, Likelesh's daughter scared of the rides - crying while riding them, and enjoying being in their company. I rarely get out and love it when I can with such friendly people who are understanding of children.

We took the last MVT bus home from Burnsville Center to the MOA. I talked to a woman while waiting who worked two full-time jobs: Bath & Bodyworks and Payless Shoes. 70 hours a week is too much for me, but for her she said it more than paid the bills. While talking to her and waiting for the bus, Josiah alternated between kiddie rides near the entrance. ( he doesn't need quarters to keep entertained on them, he has such an active imagination! )

Josiah fell asleep on the bus, again on the train, and stayed asleep until we got home. Either way it was a lovely day, though packed with busyness! And now I just need to get Siah new shoes - he can wear his snow boots or cowboy boots until then.

Saturday, December 09, 2006

Watching Kelly - DVD archiving

1) Kelly Krogen (age 4 & 11/12)

I watched my friend's daugher Carie today. Kelly is a wonderful 4 year old and about to turn 5 soon. Mayhaps Josiah can go to her party! Carie is moving all of her possessions to her new Saint Louis Park apartment, and Kelly isn't exactly assisting. I was okay watching her because she is very calm and listens well - unlike Josiah. But they really enjoy playing with each other, so it works well.

Anywho, that is how the day went. I did some cleaning while they played. They didn't like the rice and stir-fry I cooked up. Of course I didn't like the Chinese Cheese preserved hot bean curd that my acquaintance Hang gave me! Ickiness! This vegetarian loves tofu - just not this particular Asian style! I plan to make tofu with berbere and eat it with Injera. That sounds yummilicious!


2) DVD copying

On a Mac, I am unfamiliar with how to copy DVDs or make MP4s. So I found awesome software that can do both.

Handbrake can make industry standard MP4s , H.264 , wonderfully!

And MacTheRipper will allow you to copy even copyrighted material to your hard-drive. The US Supreme Court has authorized the use of copying DVDs if they are already owned by you - so archiving is okay. Hopefully this isn't abused by Netflix and library users - though it probably is -I doubt Hollywood will go belly-up. But the music industry has been hurting lately. Or is it just the major labels?